Reason 2: Children who are not recieving these family bonds from their adoptive parents will not suceed

      Children who are adopted, just like children in separated homes, need family bonds  to succeed in life; if they are not receiving these bonds from their adoptive parents they will not thrive later in life. B.D. Perry, a senior fellow at ChildTrauma Academy and a former chief of psychiatry or children; he explains the importance of bonding and attachment for children in his work "Bonding and attachment in maltreated children: consequences of emotional neglect in childhood". He states that , "There are, however, many millions of children who have some degree of impaired bonding and attachment during early childhood.  The problems that result from this can range from mild interpersonal discomfort to profound social and emotional problems."
     This is important to understand because there are tens of thousands of un-adopted children, these children grow into adults and try to have families of their own, without knowing of family bonds their families may not fully develop or may fall apart. " It may take many years of hard work to help repair the damage from only a few months of neglect in infancy." This is critical for parents to understand when adopting children because the years may continue into their young adult years, making college, professions, and adult relationship bonds difficult to create and thrive in. Also, another great point Perry makes is " The infant's ability to participate in the maternal-infant interaction may be compromised due to a medical condition such as pre-maturity, birth defect, or illness." This alone shows how not even mothers who were adopted will bond with their own children, even though bonding with a child includes a chemical in the body called oxytocin, bonds are made from mainly mental abilities. 
     Also, Perry includes how it is the child's adoptive parent that must make sure these children receive the proper bonds for the future when he states "majority of attachment problems are likely due to parental ignorance about development rather than abuse.  Many parents have not been educated about the critical nature of the experiences of the first three years of life.  With more public education and policy support for these areas, this will improve.  Currently, this ignorance is so widespread that it is estimated that 1 in 3 people has an avoidant, ambivalent, or resistant attachment with their caregiver." One in three is a very high percentage of people who a becoming adults to have attachment issues. If this continues in the next fifty years our society may have the entire family foundation pulled out from underneath it with people only caring about their own survival and never building good bonds and making their future achievement abilities deplete.

 

Perry, B.D. "Bonding and attachment in maltreated children" Consequences of emotional neglect in       children.2001.

Adapted in part from: “Maltreated Children: Experience, Brain Development and the Next Generation” (W.W. Norton & Company, New York, in preparation)

B.D. Perry