Adopting and being a parent after adoption is most important for our children and society

     Adopting parents and social workers of our society should be more focused on creating family bonds, dynamics, and differences in foster childrens' lives than just the process of adopting.

     As a parent I have now grown to understand the difficulties of raising your own child, I may only imagine how difficult it is to raise a child you adopt. When I was a teenager I never thought of having biological children but wished to adopt children, older children that other people had most likely given up on, I believe I became this way from reading "Cider House Rules" by John Irving.

     I always thought of this as unfair, though I have also seen children adopted at the perfect time in their lives to prevent separation anxiety and the parents who adopt wealthy and having the ability to give them anything they need or desire. These children became monsters, spoiled, still incomprehensive of family and family bonds but expect to do whatever they wish and only desiring attention and material goods from people. Children need to build these family bonds and the parents whom adopt need to put this priority first as well. Just because a person adopts does not make them a parent.

    There are many programs that can be committed to newly formed families to help them build relationships and bonds. Parents need to feel the relationship just as the child, even if the child is unwilling to build a bond because they will probably just be ripped away from the family in the end or have been constantly moved from home to home, never having a chance to build a lasting bond. Parents who adopt may not feel as if the children are their own, or may want to teach the child the proper way to live life but forget that they are a family. This happens constantly and it pushes the child away more and more, making them feel almost alone and not teaching them anything at all.

    Parents who adopt should have to have mandatory social work visits and assessments with the child present. This should be the biggest priority of a social worker. If a child is adopted and not taught the dynamics of a family, social life, and love then they cannot grow in society. Leaving thousands of adult inept to the ideas of whole families, changing our entire social status in our country and the repetition to the next generations grows and expands.
  
    Children are the future of our country, if a child is not being taught the proper dynamics of society and how to grow both internally and externally then our entire society will eventually collapse. Adopting parents need to be more active in their new family and child's life, teaching them everything about life as much as possible and showing them they can be loved and they are just as important as blood family. In order to do this new policies should be made for adoption and new bounds of social work should be committed to these families and making sure or nation grows to the best of it's ability.